Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

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In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships.

Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

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I'd recommend this one for anyone in recovery, as it's a very clear explanation of this complicated, murky, subject. I'm working more than one 12-step program, so this book is timely for me. "Facing Codependence" is terrific and is helping me understand what happpened.

It is currently viewed that people can be codependent within any relationship process, and can also have codependent (or unhealthy) relationships even to situations or things. Learning about and gaining an handle on the five core symptoms is definitely well worth the effort for obtaining this book. Prior to embarking on work with codepedency, Mellody was an RN, but amazingly her contributions in the field of psychology have been substantial according to luminary recovery therapist John Bradshaw. These typically stem from abusive and traumatic childhoods, parents that did not provide sufficent nurturance, or who did not instill strong childhood values, or create clear boundaries for their children.Mellody puts forth, essentially, that codependent adults must learn to become their own parents and "learn to do the things our dysfunctional parents did not teach us to do: appropriately esteem ourselves, set functional boundaries, be aware of and acknowledge our reality, take care of our adult needs and wants, and experience our reality moderately." The above represent the five core symptoms of codependency. In my view, this book is a tour de force and should be on any recovery, or personal development workshelf. Today Mellody is the Senior Clinical Advisor at The Meadows, a renowned treatment center for trauma and addictions.Before Mellody's work, the original work in the field of codependency was focused on family systems, alcoholism, as well as adult children of alchoholics, and people who love too much. However, the work in codependency, in good part due to Mellody, has taken on expanded meaning.

No complaints, sorry it took me so long to respond, it slipped my mind about doing a review.

once you are aware, it helps you to control your behavior. If you've ever been abused in anyway this book will help you understand why you react the way you do to things.

I love her work and I think she is the authority on codependence and how to work with it. She identifies what codependent behavior is in an easy to understand and read format. Any therapist working with clients would benefit from reading any of her books, however, this one is my favorite. This book is the best work on codependce. Pia Mellody shares how to recover by reparenting yourself.